A "alen" (also known as "babobrab"), a man dependent on women, is someone who has either not yet seen the truth or consciously refuses to do so for many reasons. "They're not all the same," "you just haven't met the right ones," "you're just bitter towards women," and other sayings from the "TP Bingo" are the classic set of self-justifications used by the modern alen. Today, we will analyze this phenomenon in detail and see what can be done about it.
In most cases, men who are called "not real" are beings with developed empathy, a sense of duty, and generally adequate thinking. However, society, the media, and the propaganda of traditional values gradually deform their behavior. A classic example is the so-called official marriage to a woman, when there is not a single rational reason for a man to sing a stamp in his passport. Even considering the official Russian divorce rate of 73–80% (reaching up to 95% in some regions), a man still loses a colossal amount of resources: years of life, finances, property, business, children, his nervous system, and physical health. And all of this—for what? Let's pursue to figure it out.
What is alenism — the psychology of male dependence on women
Etymology of the term "Alen"
The term "alen" comes from the word "deer" and is used in male communities to denote a male who blindly follows a female, not noticing obvious manipulations. In a psychological context, Alenism is a set of behavioral patterns where a man puts a woman\
\u{201c}<h3>Chuzhopa — someone else's dad</h3> <p>Chuzhopa is a type of combat alen who is ready to "take a stand" for a woman with other people's children. For such men, female attractiveness becomes something mythological, inspired by past successes. They willingly consider partners with one, two, or three children from previous relationships, simultaneously agreeing with the phrase "there are no other people's children."</p> <p>Explaining anything to such men is pointless. Having raised a child conceived by another man, one weak day they will begin from the teenager: "You're not my father!" After that, the chuzhopa will froth at the mouth to apply to others that his choice was right, that he loves "other people's children," and that he is not a pedophile. Such men will only be cured by the grave, when the partner finds a dear alen, or they simply "kick the bucket" at their second or third job, earning money for another iPhone or a branded bag. The result is the extinction of the male population—which is confirmed by statistics: there are significantly more women of advanced age than men. Grandfathers simply disappear.</p>
A systematic approach is 10 times more effective than independent attempts. A ready-made program takes into account all the nuances, saves years of life, and protects against typical mistakes.[/note]Chuzhopa — a man raising other people\Comparison with alternative approaches (analogues)
Besides recognizing alenism, men today turn to various philosophical systems. Let's prefer four main approaches.
Comparative table: four approaches to men's lives Approach Essence Pros Cons Who is it for Alenism (current state) Subordination to female interests Societal approval, illusion of family Loss of resources, health, freedom Not recommended for anyone Red Pill Awareness of real gender dynamics Knowledge of the rules, protection from manipulation Risk of cynicism, bias towards aggression Men in relationships or seeking MGTOW Complete rejection of marriage and serious relationships Complete freedom, asset protection Loneliness, lack of heirs Those disillusioned with relationships Male self-sufficiency Self-development while maintaining freedom of choice Balance, resources, freedom of choice Requires constant self-work Most thinking men Among all approaches, male self-sufficiency appears the most balanced: it requires neither a complete rejection of women nor blind adherence to social norms. It is a path of conscious choice at every stage of life.
How to live for yourself — final videoFrequently asked questions on the topic of alenism
Can you be married and not be an alen?
Yes, but it requires clear agreements: a separate budget, a prenuptial agreement, and mutual respect for boundaries. In practice, such marriages are a minority—about 15–20%.
How do I know if my woman is using me?
Look for three markers: she does not invest resources (money, time, care) into the relationship proportionally to you; she avoids commitments; her interest in you grows only when you give something.
What is TP Bingo?
TP Bingo is a list of typical phrases that women use to manipulate men. Examples: "you're a man," "a real man wouldn't do that," "all men are the same," "I just met the wrong ones."
Why is the registry office dangerous for a man?
The registry office brings relationships into a legal field where a man automatically assumes financial obligations (alimony, division of property) but receives no symmetrical guarantees. Statistics show: in 85% of divorces, the woman initiates them, and it's mainly the man who loses.
How to tell a genuine woman from a consumer?
A genuine woman invests in the relationship equally with you, respects your boundaries, does not use sex as a manipulation tool, does not turn you against relatives and friends, and supports your goals.
Can resources be recovered after a divorce?
Partially—yes. A competent lawyer, proper asset registration, and fighting for a fair division can help enable losses. But it's better to initiate the problem in advance.
What if I'm already a long-time alen?
It's never too late to start changing. Start simple: regain control over your finances, start training, find a male community. In a year or two, you'll become a different person.
How to raise a son so he doesn't become an alen?
Set an example of a self-sufficient man, teach him financial literacy, sports, and the ability to set boundaries. Explain the real statistics of relationships, not just the romantic side.
Is it worth getting into relationships at all?
Relationships are a choice, not an obligation. If you are self-sufficient and understand the rules, relationships can be a pleasant addition to life. If you are an alen, it's better to sort yourself out first.
Are there courses and programs for escaping alenism?
Yes, there are specialized programs, men's clubs, and mentors that help you go through this path faster and without mistakes. Investing in such training pays off many times over.
Conclusion
What I would like to say in conclusion—take care of yourselves, thinking men. You have only one life, and there are many women. Just live for yourself, and then you will always have something to hang, drink, wear, and spend time with. And the fact that the best chefs, builders, engineers, and leaders are male goes without saying.
Intend: every day spent in the state of an alen is a day stolen from your best version. Start changing today. Read one book, sign up for one workout, ask yourself one uncomfortable question. Simple steps lead to big results.
A man who has recognized alenism and started the path of change completely transforms his life in 2–3 years. Tested by thousands of members of male communities around the world.Don't wait for the perfect moment—start acting right now. Your best life awaits you on the other side of awakening.
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