Relationships with the modern woman of the 21st century: myths, reality and bitter truth

Modern relationships between men and women in the 21st century have become something resembling a minefield, where every step can turn into a disaster. Women brought up on pop culture, feminist slogans and social networks often see relationships not as a partnership, but as a way to achieve personal goals, often mercantile. Let’s break down what these “relationships” are from a modern woman’s point of view, what “pluses” they bring to a man, and why it’s more like a deal with the devil than love.

Myths and Expectations of the Modern Woman

The modern woman of the 21st century tends to approach relationships with a clear set of requirements that are more akin to a script for exploitation than a partnership. Here are the main theses that can be found in their worldview:

Myths and expectations of the modern woman.

• A man should provide. Whether fully or partially doesn’t matter, the main thing is that he should pay for her wants. This can be paying bills in a restaurant, buying clothes, trips to resorts or even a mortgage in her name. At the same time, the woman often does not consider it necessary to contribute, because “the man must”. If he refuses to be an ATM, he is immediately recorded in the category of “unmasculine”.
• A man is obliged to guess desires. Flowers? Sure, but only when she wants them, and God forbid if he does not guess the moment. Courtship? Absolutely, and in a “chase me till I say yes” kind of way. In this case, her past – abortions, partying, dubious connections – should not care about anyone. A man should pursue her as if she were a virgin from a convent, not a ticktocker with a wealth of “experience”.
• A man must be “compliant.” This is a euphemism for “obedient slave.” Any expression of his own opinion or character is perceived as a threat. Compromise in her mind is when a man does what she wants him to do. If he tries to assert his interests, he is immediately accused of being “toxic” or “out of control.”
• The man pays for everything. If he offers to split the bill at a coffee shop, that’s a judgment call. She will give him nothing but a scornful look. At the same time, the woman herself rarely thinks about what she can offer in return, except for her body, which, as a rule, is no longer in “factory packaging.”

These attitudes are so deeply ingrained in the minds of many women that a term has even emerged – “degreasing men”. This is not a metaphor, but a very real strategy, where a man is seen as a resource that must be squeezed to the last drop.

Idol worship

All of the above expectations boil down to one thing: a man should be spineless, ready to grovel before a woman. This is not just a metaphor: think of wedding traditions where a man gets down on his knee to propose. It’s a symbol of submission that modern women take literally. They don’t want a man to be a partner, but a servant, ready to fulfill their every whim.

But what does a man get in return? Let’s look at the so-called “pluses” of a relationship with a modern woman.

The “perks” of relationships: myths and reality

Women often like to say that they bring something unique to a relationship that a man can’t get without them. But if you dig deeper, these “pluses” turn out to be either myths or overrated services. Let’s look at the main ones:

• Bearing children. This is probably the main trump card women like to pull out of their sleeve. “I’ll bear you children!” – sounds like a great favor. But in reality, things are not so rosy. First, in modern realities it is one, maximum two children, and it is not a fact that they are biologically yours (without DNA-test can not do without). Secondly, many women use children as a tool of manipulation: “I gave birth, now you owe me your whole life”. At the same time, some do not want to give birth at all, but are ready to tell how it is “painful and difficult” to justify their laziness and unwillingness to work.
• Domestic comfort: washing, cleaning, cooking. Another myth that is actively promoted. But let’s be honest: in 2025, washing machines, robot vacuum cleaners, multicookers and food delivery services have made these “services” practically unnecessary. Women often complain about having to wash dishes or cook, but they do it for themselves too! This is no mean feat, but a basic concern for their own comfort. A man is perfectly capable of handling it himself or hiring a cleaner for a small fee. So what’s the value?
• Care and comfort. This is perhaps the biggest myth. Instead of the promised “hearth”, a man gets a fraying of nerves, constant reproaches, manipulation and guilt that he is “not trying hard enough”. The modern woman rarely seeks to create coziness – she would rather sit in tiktok, while you grub to pay for her subscriptions to marigolds and coffee with girlfriends. Instead of care, you’ll get abjection, and instead of coziness, you’ll get a list of demands.

At the end of the day, the only thing a woman has to offer is sex. But there are nuances here, too. First, her “valuable resource” is often already worn out by the age of 20. Secondly, there is a great risk of catching something unpleasant because of her turbulent past. And thirdly, even this “resource” she will use as a leverage, giving it out dosed and only when all her conditions are met.

Are prostitutes more honest?

And here’s where an interesting comparison arises. Prostitutes, unlike many modern women, are honest in their intentions. They have a clear price, pre-agreed services and no hypocrisy. They won’t blow your brains out, demand a ring or whine that your salary is low. It’s a clean deal: you pay, get the favor, and move on. No illusions of “love to the grave” or “a future together.” Whereas a modern woman can pull resources from you for years, promising “love”, and leave you with an empty wallet and a broken heart.

The consequences of such “relationships”

To summarize, a relationship with a modern woman in the 21st century is a game with a predetermined losing outcome for the man. Here’s what awaits you:

• Psychological problems. Constant stress, manipulation, and abusive behavior lead to burnout, depression, and even physical illness.
• Financial loss. From paying for her whims to alimony and property division in divorce, it all hits the wallet.
• Child alienation. A woman can use children as a tool of pressure, limiting your communication with them.
• Trust. Treachery. Treachery, lies and “fattened” children are not rare, but a reality.
• Loss of time. Years spent on such a relationship can not be returned.

And the worst – divorce. In countries like Russia, a prenuptial agreement is often worthless, and the courts side with the woman. You risk being left without property, with a lot of debts and alimony, which you will pay even for other people’s children.